You were born FEARLESS. As kids we jumped on skateboards without helmets, got behind the wheel of the neighborhood go-kart without pause, rode in backseats without seatbelts and ran through puddles in the rain just because. In each of those moments, we lived without fear, uncertainty or doubt. We lived in the moment, and the moment was truly fearless.
As time marched on, fear marched in. “Put a helmet on, you’re going to catch a cold; That’s not safe to do, you’re going to hurt yourself.” Simple words that were meant to protect us and said ever so lovingly. But the unintended consequence was that unconscious fear began to take root, effectively the birth of fear.
As we grew into our adolescent years, fear shifted to UNCERTAINTY. This played out through thousands of “what-if” scenarios in our heads. “What if I don’t make the team, what if I don’t do well on the test, what if they don’t like me.” As normal human beings, we like certainty, we like to know the outcome. As we have traveled through life, uncertainty grew more pervasive, and fear grew with it.
At some point, each of us has stumbled, and that stumble gave birth to DOUBT. “I’m not going to make the team; I’m going to fail the test; She doesn’t like me.” One thing I have learned about doubt is this – no one is immune to it. Some of the world’s greatest leaders and athletes talk about their early stumbles and doubts they had if they would ever make it – Oprah, Michael Jordan, Bill Clinton just to name a few.
If we allow fear, uncertainty and doubt to settle into our beings, then surely thoughts of FAILURE will paralyze us next. “I’m not going to try out; I’m going to drop that class; I don’t like him anymore.” The fear of failure manifests itself as not wanting to try. Remember the words spoken to us as a kid to protect us from ourselves? Well now, we have moved onto self-preservation mode through self-talk. We are effectively insulating ourselves from being hurt, disappointed, or rejected. This is normal and ordinary.
You have the opportunity to conquer fear, thrive in uncertainty, and shut the door to doubt. You have the ability to truly b FEARLESS.
I want to take you on a short, easy-to-read pictorial journey over the next sixty minutes to provide you with a five-part framework to becoming a leader, making an impact, being good in the world, developing who you are, leaving a legendary legacy behind and truly being fearless.